‘Be a man’ is a statement masked in silencing men – Leo DaSilva

Ex-BBNaija housemate, Leo DaSilva shares his perspective on the common phrase, “Be a man,” which he believes is often used to silence men and overlook their well-being.

In a post on X (formerly Twitter), he explained that the phrase is a trigger for toxic behaviour, as it pressures men to suppress their emotions and ignore their mental health to conform to societal expectations.

“‘Be a man’ is a statement masked in silencing men, ignoring their happiness, and a trigger for toxicity,” he wrote.

Leo Dasilva further stressed the importance of men prioritizing their mental health and overall well-being, a message that resonated with many of his followers.

“It’s okay for you as a man to also prioritize your mental health and general well-being. If you are not fine, you cannot effectively take care of anyone,” he added.

His post has since sparked discussions on social media, with many praising him for highlighting the emotional struggles men often face in silence.

A fan, @femmymafia wrote in response, “I’ve been saying this for a while now! But at least I know I’m not tripping now! I could go through a lot of pains and heartbreaks. I mean back to back problems. But nobody cares about whatever I go through or going through. All they care about is me coming through for them. Like I don’t deserve to be loved or treated right. If I hear any say “be a man” to me again, I might clap someone. I’m telling you my pains, you telling me to be strong like you know how I’m feeling!”

Another user, @onlylilibee added, “BE A MAN” It’s a statement used to silence males without taking their mental health into account, causing them to bottle up their feelings until they eventually explode in a harmful way towards society. Parents need to do better. Society needs to do better.”